Thursday, March 26, 2009

Mean Girls

So, I'm doing the Beth Moore Bible Study in a Small Group through Church of the Highlands. I was really looking forward to this particular week - about meanness - and mean people. I needed to hear this!! First, there is always someone in your life that you think is mean - either their actions or their words seem to be mean to you - a personal attack on you, or at least that's how you see it even if they don't mean anything personal by their actions/words. One of the big points of the session was that meanness is the result of a threat.

Well, I've never really thought of it that way. So after managing to run my mouth forever after watching the session dvd, I just realized that I've handled similar situations and moved on, let go - but this one issue just hangs on. I drive Jason crazy with it and struggle - really struggle with it. The one thing I need to do is change MY reaction. I have no control at all over what someone says or does to me, around me, near me - but I can certainly change my reaction. I've just realized that even though I don't think of myself as a 'mean girl' - the way I react to some of the 'mean girls' in my life, causes me to act in a mean way - even if it isn't verbalized to that person. There's been other situations in my life previously where I've set out to change my reaction specifically and it's made a big difference in my life. This one relationship is where I haven't seemed to tackle this problem but I'm working on it!! I'm making a huge effort to work on it. NOW!!

So why are girls/ladies/women this way? It's nuts. I've been involved with so many groups of friends where drama occurs - somewhere - and its usually based on nothing - nothing but she said/she said! I've never been a super secure person. I've always had self esteem issues. I've always thought I was missing out of something - like there was some big secret going on that I don't know about it and everyone else does. I know, I know - stupid. Anyway, this Beth Moore study has been great. I'm learning a lot - even if I'm not doing my homework!! Beth Moore is so so funny. I mean, she really really tells it how it is and she's dead on everytime.

Okay - so that's all I've got today - I'm going to pick up some more boxes tomorrow from the grocery store so I can start packing up more. We've put off the remainder of the move until next weekend since it looks like it may rain this Saturday. We don't have much left to move in the furniture department, but the entire kitchen needs to be packed!! And, believe it or not, there is still a good amount of 'stuff' in my studio and Cole still has a good amount of toys here, too!

So, off to pack a few things and accomplish something.


HoweverAlthough said...

I struggle with this in more ways than one...I can be terribly sarcastic and tend to hurt feelings when I'm really just playing or trying to get a reaction, so I often wonder if people think I am mean. I would hate to know that. BUT, I also tend to wear my sensitive britches to the wrong places and get my feelings hurt pretty easily. I have to remind myself over and over again that I can only control my reaction and that there are many more people in the world than this mean person...more people who love me and accept me for who I am. I work with some really mean women and I have to pick and choose my battles every single day. I feel much better when I just avoid them altogether, but it's easy to fall in their trap and let them make me feel like a loser. They can only make me feel that way if I allow them to, though.

Monique said...

You are funny. I am REALLY enjoying this study too....minus a few homework assignments. There is a girl at work doing the study and she said it gets better and better. :) Can't wait!!!! You already know all my thoughts on this. ;)

Amy said...

I'm doing Esther too!! It is SO great. I loved the 'Mean Girls' session too... you are gonna love the rest of it too!!

Christine said...

Hi Lisa. Thanks for stopping by my blog and leaving such a lovely comment. This is an interesting post. It is something that I struggle with too. I can be very sensitive at times and don't always react how I should. I have heard so many great things about Beth Moore. I am glad that you are enjoying the Bible Study Group. See you around.

3QTGUYS said...

So, which study is it?? It sounds great, and I am a huge Beth Moore fan!

Holly said...

Lisa, I'm doing Esther at church right now too! We are a bit ahead of you guys apparantly; but it gets better and better. So much food for thought on the way we react to things isn't it??

Holly said...

Lisa, I'm doing Esther at church right now too! We are a bit ahead of you guys apparantly; but it gets better and better. So much food for thought on the way we react to things isn't it??


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